As I write this, I'm tired. I have worked all week, some days (like today, a Saturday) putting in long hours. My body is telling me that it needs to rest.
I've had women say to me, "There's no way I can take time for myself! Everyone or everything around me would fall apart!" The house, the kids, and the job all pull at you and convince you to put your own needs on the back burner.
Pretty soon you've worked yourself into a downward spiral. You blame your circumstances for how you feel, and you blame how you feel on your circumstances. Your need to be needed keeps you tied to your roles and responsibilities.
If you take time for you, is it absolutely true, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that everything would fall apart? If circumstances dictated that you necessarily HAD to take time for yourself, you would find a way to make it happen. You might be surprised at how everything held together in your absence!
If you don't take the time to rejuvenate, something will eventually occur to force you to do so.
I learned this lesson the hard way last December when I was bucked off a horse, breaking my collarbone and a couple of ribs. Previous to this, I had been feeling overwhelmed and tired for weeks and months because I had created a life with no margins. My accident was a difficult way to learn to maintain space in my life for me.
My higher wisdom knew that I needed time. Suddenly I had hours of it, lying on the couch as my bones mended. Perhaps your rejuvenation gift would be something different - an illness, a job loss, some change in circumstances that forces you to take time to rest.
In spite of my lesson, I felt resistant about taking a vacation this summer. In my mind, I questioned how I could afford to take the time off. I did go, and I thoroughly enjoyed playing in the sun and water in Minnesota. Upon my return, I felt amazed at the renewed vigor and energy I felt to begin working again.
I realized it's a myth that we're less productive if we take time to relax. We're actually more so!
That rest time doesn't have to be long. Indulge in it often enough so that you avoid burnout.
Make it a couple of hours or a couple of days. It must be time, however, when you take your mind off what you do for "work." It's a time to let go of your usual responsibilities and do something that energizes you.
I'm going to cut this short because I have to pack.
You see, I'm going away for a couple of days with my husband!
Dr. Marta practices in the Verde Valley as a Life Coach. To contact her, call (928) 451-9482.